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Post by anonymoustamilgirl on Aug 7, 2018 6:25:49 GMT
Hi! I feel like this is something a lot of desi girls can relate with. I feel like I have no connection with boys, like at all. I go to an all girl school, and my friend circle revolves around my girls. Even at family events, my parents only let me talk to other girls my age, so I legit don't have any connections with boys or talk to any boys my age. Being young, I am not too worried about this, but I part of me is thinking how I would ever get a boyfriend or fall in love. I feel like my family is distancing me from anything to do with boys that I won't know how to ever talk to them? This isn't really a big deal, just a thought.
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Post by Anon21 on Aug 14, 2018 0:04:22 GMT
I’m getting the impression that you think talking to boys is this super hard thing to do and trust me it really isn’t. They are just normal people. Talk to them how you would talk to any friend. Ask about their hobbies, likes, dislikes and try to find a common ground as that will help you establish a normal friendship and then if love is meant to be it will happen and if not then at least you made a good friend.
Hope that helped.
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Post by Guest0405 on Aug 14, 2018 0:13:58 GMT
I agree, it’s not hard to talk to boys as they are people too. Don’t worry too much about falling love, it’ll happen eventually. Talk to boys if you are wanting a friendship with a different perspective but don’t stress out too much. You will eventually get multiple opportunities to talk to them, work with them, and even hang out with them. It’s honestly not that big of a thing you need to be worrying about and I’m sure there are boys you can talk to right now. Join some clubs or activities where you can interact with people of your age regardless of gender. I wish you good luck and don’t stress out.
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Post by Gossip girl xoxo on Aug 14, 2018 0:15:12 GMT
Heya, I went to an only girls school and for some time I didn’t have very many guy friends let alone romantic connections but when it came to my senior years I think I automatically got to kno guys through brother schools etc. it’s not a big deal at all, the group girls I hung out with in high school, to this day are one of my closest friends. Plus you’re young you shouldn’t worry about boys just focus on getting good grades and having fun sis! My friends and I were talking and we all agreed that high school was so good for us because we didn’t have to go through the boy drama until we hit year 13, also once you get to uni boys will come through like buses xo
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Post by AnonS on Aug 14, 2018 3:31:08 GMT
I disagree with the above responses. Although the person who asked the question might be young, that doesn't mean that all she should worry about is studies and not about not being able to talk to boys.
I am surprised that she had thought of this at her age. I never did. I was brought up the same way, not allowed to even look at the opposite sex. I didn't think it was a big deal back then, I would never have thought it was going to be a problem in the future. But guess what, i am almost 30 years old and I still have a hard time starting a conversation or even holding one with a guy. It surely is something to worry about and my suggestion to you would be to go ahead and talk to boys when given the chance and don't wait for high school or college to do that because by then you might overthink it and won't be able to start a conversation. Like everybody else here said, it's no big deal and taking to a boy is same as talking to a girl. But if you don't get that balance early on in your life where you get to have a conversation with both sexes, it does make your conversations awkward with the opposite sex later on in your life.
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Post by Heylo on Aug 14, 2018 8:02:31 GMT
Hey,
so I didnt have any guy friends at all, like I couldn't talk to guys, I was weird and defence and said stupid stuff and im pretty sure it was because my parents were like having boyfriends leads to bad thing and only bad girls do that (they had some how put into my head that girls and boys cant be friends). anyway, as I got into high school I realised that the friends I had made were the friends my parents would want me to have not the friends that I want. btw my parents Indian. anyway at the middle - end of last year I kind of became friends with a group of guys, like 10 guys who are 6 ft + and me at 5 ft 5 in crying about my height. I soon realised that they are nothing like I thought they would be, they are just human beings and they were way better friends to me then any girl friends I had, had. now we became friends and I knew I couldn't tell my parents because they would freak out. so I kept it a secret I would I lie about who I was hanging out with, and once and a while.i would hang out with this girl and she let it slip that I have a guy friends called Ben (fake name) and my mom hounded me for day about him. and still does. if I go hangout with people she accuses me of dating or liking them even if I explicitly don't. so let me tell you now don't worry because you will make guy friends and they may not be your best friends or they could become your best friends doesn't matter, but you will realise they are very often just act a little stupider but they are human and other than they don't look like girls there is a very few things that they do differently and it makes no difference.
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Post by Yo on Aug 14, 2018 12:34:04 GMT
I have a similar thing where my parents don't want me to have guy friends even tho I go to a co-ed school and they don't want me to be close to any of my male family members. But I have male friends in school and its not that difficult just talk about things you have in common and eventually you'll become friends (or bf/gf) it's not that diff. From talking to girls really!
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Post by Sesnesnw on Aug 14, 2018 19:51:39 GMT
I went to a girls school too. And many of the posts above are all right. 1.) it’s not a big deal. Boys are also human and they’re the same as any one else. 2.) it’s easier to be able to talk to them now than if you’re suddenly exposed to them later in life.
So best thing to do would be to join sports or other extracurricular activities that involves co-ed groups. It could be an academic endavour too. Something outside of school. Find something you’re interested in and join that and then and work hard at it. Honestly it could even be taking advance classes at a different high school or something like that.
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