Post by browngirldreaming on Sept 15, 2017 18:45:05 GMT
Hey guys! Thank you for reading...
Let's just get straight to the point shall we?
My parents are incredibly sexist. I am an Indian girl, 15 years old and I live in Dubai, U.A.E. Recently we went to India on vacation. My mom keeps telling me about how I cannot wear sleeveless clothes to the temple as they are 'inappropiate'. But tell me how is it inappropriate when the priest and half of the male-devotees are shirtless and nobody cares? My mom tells me that it I can wear whatever the hell I want as long as I can defend myself from men who might cat-call me as long as I can fight back. She says that I shouldnt come home crying because something could have possibly happened. Almost everything my family says is sexist. How are we women not allowed to go to the temple when we are menstruating? That makes absolutely no sense to me. At this point I have a very bad relationship with my mom and dad. They keep saying just wait until you are 18 and then you can do whatever you want. But that isn't the whole point. No human being should be sexist. It simply isn't fair. I mean they were raised like that an all but still...
So do any of you have any advice as to what I could possibly do because I am absolutely clueless right now. I just keeping fighting and arguing and I dont want it to be that way.
Hey I feel you girly! I’m a Sikh girl born in California and I get it too sometimes. I had no clue that you weren’t supposed to go to the gurdwara if you were on your period! But you know what I don’t really care! The whole point of Sikhism is to treat everyone equal isn’t it? So be your self! Idk how it is out their, but if you wear half sleeve here no one will cat call you. My parents also don’t let me wear shorts at the gurdwara and I’m not allowed to wear dresses above my knee at school! And then they got mad when I said they were treating me like a nun! Also, my twin brother is allowed to work and take walks all by himself, but I am not allowed to do those things. That makes me vexed! I love my parents though, and it seems like you are having more problems with them. I am sorry I am not of much help, but I wish you the best of luck! Also, learn karate or keep a pocket knife on you, and if any of those old creepy perverted guys say anything even slightly creepy, show them that you know how to fight back! This should only be a last option you have left though! XOXOXO
The not allowed to enter temple/ gurudwaras is on the religious side guys. I am musim girl myself, and we dont enter the masjid when mentruating because the menstruated blood is unpure. Some of the females come to the masjids in that condition, but they cant pray and just have to sit around. Personally prefer not going to the masjid only in such condition, i get heavy periods so the feelings always yucky during that time for me. Rest of the sexist points, it happens with all of us desis irrespective of religion or where we are living! I have been living in the Middle east from childhood but yet had to experience a lot of sexist episodes with my parents. I had a phase where I was constantly fighting and arguing with them but it jsut resulted in my energies and good moods drained out and they not getting the point. So instead calm your nerves, you cant change the 100 years of sexist culture in one go. Try to point out what they are doing wrong in a smart way, explain how you felt bad or upset with their words/ action when they are alone. Avoid making a scene, it always results in the negative for you. Follow rule of one point at a time thing. Dont ruin your own peace and energies in this whole fight! There is a whole life besides this point-making & fighting as well my daredevils! ♥️