Post by brown girl cheesed lmao on Aug 21, 2017 0:04:10 GMT
Keep in mind I AM A FEMINIST. So I'm only 14 years old and I'm a Canadian brown girl with roots in Punjab. I just needed an outlet to express my thoughts so here goes:
this is a slightly different opinion so heads up! I've been hearing how brown women are always the ones making all the sacrifices, working so hard, and how the men have it easy. This is true, but I've just always wondered why. Why do they fricken do this shit. In most brown families, the men are raised like princes. Personally, my brother is treated and being raised into an egotistical ass basic brown boy. I can see him growing up into the male that thinks his wife supposed to do all the work while he chills eating warm rotis. This is wrong. Brown women who do this are actually kind of dumb. Why are you raising your daughters into oppressed women and your men into arrogant assholes. It's like they're tryna repeat the fate they've had. I'm not sure where I'm going with this but oh well. MY MAIN MESSAGE IS IF YOU DONT WANNA BE OPPRESSED AS WOMEN, AT LEAST MAKE THE EFFORT TO RAISE YOUR SONS INTO FEMINISTS THAT WONT TREAT THEIR WIFES AS ASS AS YOUR HUSBAND TREATS YOUR ASS.
I see what you're saying and I completely agree. But I believe the reason brown mums or brown parents are that way is because that's what they think is normal. They're brainwashed into thinking that "women belong in the kitchen" and men are "supposed to put a roof over our heads." Newer generation sees the difference and discrimination hence why most of us don't have that close "friendly" relationship with our parents.
Post by Anonymous girl on Aug 6, 2018 18:51:37 GMT
Hey I am almost exactly like you, but I am a Sikh Punjabi girl in California. I have a twin bro, and i know my parents are trying at least a little to treat us equally, but I still see him being shaped into the typical Indian boy buttface. I tell my family all of the feminist stuff that comes to mind, but sometimes they say that my feminism is getting annoying!!?? Well dang your sexism is getting hella annoying! Sometimes my grandparents who are hecka sweet are sexist and don’t even realize it! But my other grandparents straight out say that they hate girls! My mom try’s to support me, but sometimes she can’t. I’m also almost 15 for reference. We can do this girl! Just push through it and do what you want. Don’t let anyone treat you that way honey. I also get annoyed when my mom does everything and I talk back to my dad for her because she doesn’t do it and then he says I have been rude lately??!!! Like wth!! He says he’s tired from work and that’s why he can’t cook but my mom works too??!! She has two jobs, dealing with him and she’s a office lady. Good luck, sorry I can’t help too much
Post by thatssoraveena on Aug 14, 2018 2:19:38 GMT
Totally same. My mom gets yelled at by my dad and he always does it in front of our guests to assert his dominance and then when I talk back to him my mom starts yelling at me. 😑 I don’t like the way my dad treats my mom sometimes and it sucks that she’s the one who always has to say sorry to him.
i really hated when that shit happened at home but all i can say is that sometimes getting angry and fighting back isn't always the answer. i realized it didn't help with the situation so the next time my dad raised his voice at my mom when he had no right to... i got pissed and kinda broke down and told him how much he was hurting me and my siblings when he yelled at mom and that he can't just fucking yell at her when he wants!! And honestly he's gotten better and realized what he use to do was fucking fucked and I'm really glad. So maybe theres hope