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Post by Ash on Aug 6, 2018 9:59:46 GMT
Hi guys, I'm 21 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now. I have recently been feeling a lot of guilt and shame for not telling my parents and hiding the entirety of my relationship with them. But the reason I did it still stands - they are quite conservative and may not be happy with my choice to date and subsequently get into a 'love marriage'. My mom definitely knows about this, I think. Recently an incident occured which has been making me feel really guilty. My mom (while on A video call) saw a pic of me and my guy on my nightstand. (I don't live at home). She hasn't been talking to me since. I don't know how to deal with this situation. I'm scared and guilty and feeling shameful, but just really confused. Is it time to come clean? Please help.
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Post by kusa on Aug 6, 2018 10:11:12 GMT
Ok I have never dated before! I also have a bad experience with giving unsolicited advice but here it goes. You should definitely gauge the mood of your parents before you have the conversation with them. Try calling your mom and asking her if something bothering her. Sometimes things are coincidences; maybe she just happened to be busy w/ something and wasn’t able to talk to you. If you think she has an idea then I think you should come clean. I believe it is more likely that your mother is simply hurt by the fact that you didn’t tell her you were dating. Best of luck!
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Post by Jdjfjdjdid on Aug 14, 2018 17:01:06 GMT
ok well, I think it’s best to tell her. You are a GROWN WOMAN and you can decide what is good for you. Ease into tellin her, if he really makes you happy then your parents will understand because all they want is you to be happy. Make sure they know that he is going to treat you well and drop hints whenever you can about how love marriages can make you happier than an arranged one. Also in my opinion moms are more understanding and easier to talk to , at least for me, so try that.
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Post by Jdjfjdjdid on Aug 14, 2018 17:01:43 GMT
ok well, I think it’s best to tell her. You are a GROWN WOMAN and you can decide what is good for you. Ease into tellin her, if he really makes you happy then your parents will understand because all they want is you to be happy. Make sure they know that he is going to treat you well and drop hints whenever you can about how love marriages can make you happier than an arranged one. Also in my opinion moms are more understanding and easier to talk to , at least for me, so try that.
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Post by shanoodidi on Aug 19, 2018 9:20:56 GMT
If you want to come clean assuming that your mother has seen the photo, then first be sure that she has! Call her up and try getting this out from her indirectly. If you are getting feeling guilty and want to tell them honestly, first discuss this with your bf. And if you both are sure, then go ahead. All the best!
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