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Post by Nervous101 on Aug 21, 2017 16:36:26 GMT
Hi so I'm 23 years old and I have no expierence with guys. I've never hugged a guy in a intimate manner forget kiss or do anything else. I feel like I'm getting so old with no expierence and guys will find that weird. Guys have been Interested in me before but always just simple flirting that's it. And now I've lost confidence with guys as a whole. All my friends I speak to have had expierence even the ones who were shy like me. I'm getting scared as I am reaching a marriable age (according to Indian culture and my family). My parents are very nice and of course want me to study till I get where I want to but I feel a societal pressure of getting married...but I don't wanna just marry any guy I wanna date him before and I feel like the way I'm going I won't be able to. I know it sounds like a silly complaint in front of all other girls go through but this is really stressing me out and doubt I will find happiness in my love life.
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Post by haseena on Aug 21, 2017 22:48:22 GMT
I'm in exactly the same position. I'm actually very confident and outgoing but I just don't think I've come across the one. Especially in the society we are in I feel as though lack of experience is a turn of?
I'd love to hear other opinions because I'm in the same boat.
It's funny because my parents always told me to focus on studies etc don't get into relationships and now I'm 23 and my mums looking at me waiting to reveal my 'secret boyfriend' (I wish)
It's funny because my parents are super chill and wouldn't even care who I brought home - just a damn shame I don't have anyone haha
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Post by aristocat on Aug 28, 2017 2:36:04 GMT
Didn't start talking to guys until I was 25 here (and I'm in my late 20s now) while Indian girls in my college were scoping out, flirting with guys and married by 25. My biggest deterent was being reserved and crippingly insecure. You need to be honest with yourself about what you need to improve as far as personality goes and fix it. Then you will have to be proactive about putting yourself out into dating world. No one will just fall into your lap.
With desi girls, we tend to cave into familial pressure to "settle" with guys who are families present to us past if we haven't found someone ourselves past a certain age. Very few are courageous enough to keep the pressure at bay/ignore it until they have found the one regardless of how long it takes to find a good man. The faster you realize this reality, the sooner you will be able to help yourself because, as women, our culture hasn't and doesn't have our best interests in mind.
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Post by shanoodidi on Aug 19, 2018 8:48:50 GMT
Hey there nervous101, there isn't anything to be nervous about dear. You might get the feeling that you have been left behind in this race of girlfriends & boyfriends, and all that lovey dovey things they do but donot worry you will find your partner soon! You can tell him all about your nervousness, and he shall make you feel calm, at rest, loved, crazy & everything nice. Telling this from my own experience, I was your type: flirting from far & then tata-babye to the boys hahaha. Nothing developed more than that, but now that I have found this stupidly geeky partner of mine ( I am 27 now), I am at peace. And believe all that nervousness gave birth to this much-delighted feeling of doing everything for the first time with him  Well he is my husband now  |
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