Post by Nayi shehar ki ladki on Aug 20, 2017 16:41:58 GMT
Coming from a brown , conservation,south Indian family when my grandparents come over and our whole life style changes , I'm not surprised because it is so damn normal!
In my family on a normal day , both my parents split the chores and it isn't unusual when my mum is the one going for business trips while my dad stays back to take care of me. This is pretty normal until my paternal grandparents comes over. I'm not supposed to go to my classes which are after 7pm. My mum needs to be home from work by six thirty. My mom does all the cooking , wears only churidar or saris , does ALL the house hold work and then expected to work at the same time.
When my mum and I went to see my mum's mother (it was around the time my paternal grandparents were over)it was all nice until my mom brought up the the situation at home saying that she had to do all the work the only response my grandma had was "why should your husband so the work when there are two women at home to take care of it?" .
The worst part about this statement is that my grandma was from a small village in south of India and had to work her way up to Delhi , ignoring marriage proposals and even had to share her apartment with her brothers (as surprising as it might sound , my grandma to date doesn't have such an open relationship with her brothers and won't live with them unless there is an other woman in the house) . My grandma had to fight sexism at its finest to become who she is today and yet the statement "why should your husband so the work when there are two women at home to take care of it?" came out of her mouth just as smoothly as her prayers.
The moment my grandparents left ,my dad became his usual self . Our house went back to normal as of nothing happened.
Sexism is so common in our lives that we don't even bat an eyelid when it happens
In my family on a normal day , both my parents split the chores and it isn't unusual when my mum is the one going for business trips while my dad stays back to take care of me. This is pretty normal until my paternal grandparents comes over. I'm not supposed to go to my classes which are after 7pm. My mum needs to be home from work by six thirty. My mom does all the cooking , wears only churidar or saris , does ALL the house hold work and then expected to work at the same time.
When my mum and I went to see my mum's mother (it was around the time my paternal grandparents were over)it was all nice until my mom brought up the the situation at home saying that she had to do all the work the only response my grandma had was "why should your husband so the work when there are two women at home to take care of it?" .
The worst part about this statement is that my grandma was from a small village in south of India and had to work her way up to Delhi , ignoring marriage proposals and even had to share her apartment with her brothers (as surprising as it might sound , my grandma to date doesn't have such an open relationship with her brothers and won't live with them unless there is an other woman in the house) . My grandma had to fight sexism at its finest to become who she is today and yet the statement "why should your husband so the work when there are two women at home to take care of it?" came out of her mouth just as smoothly as her prayers.
The moment my grandparents left ,my dad became his usual self . Our house went back to normal as of nothing happened.
Sexism is so common in our lives that we don't even bat an eyelid when it happens
