Post by browngirlcheesed on Aug 19, 2018 18:23:36 GMT
Basic Info About Me: I’m 14, Canadian, roots in Punjab
As young as 9 years old, I had noticed sexism in not only my immediate family, but also in the way extended family/relatives treated/viewed women. Wether it be the traditional gender roles or “the way women should act” (soft spoken, appeasing), i always knew that this was wrong and that I was not going to grow up being that kind of women (although I don’t shame women who pursue that lifestyle). This is probably due to role models in my life like my older sister and cousins. Although, I noticed that these cousins and my sister always shared their ideas about how wrong certain things are in the family but they never stood up to them. At family getothers, they’d clean up while men lounged. They’d listen and not say a word when they were told they couldn’t go out for no legit reason. I hated it but I never spoke out either. My mom grew up with a Dad that didn’t care wether she was a girl or a boy, she was allowed to do whatever she wished. When my mom got married, she was told to quit her job and baby up, which she did. The mind state of the women on my dads family has always been opresssed and weak tbh. They turned my mom from a free feminist into the same mind state slowly. I’ve literally seen her change over time. My dad on the other hand says he has no difference in his mind for women and men, but his actions say otherwise. He judges my older female cousins for drinking whereas he’s the one pouring shots for my older male cousins. He lets my brother be a brat but freaks out if I say even the smallest controversial thing.
I’m not saying I grew up with extreme oppression because I didn’t, but the little things piled up and now I am going through what my parents thing is a “sensitive phase” where I literally can’t stand any of it. I have been speaking out for anything and everything I find wrong and my parents are just viewing me as some rebelling teenager. What they don’t realize is that I have always been like this outside of home. And so recently, My dad says some controversial things and I naturally respond to them. Instantly he’s shocked and saying “she snaps back so quickly” and how I’m so outspoken. Even my mom tells me to back down when she knows I’m not saying anything that she herself doesn’t believe in. My parents call me rude for simply not agreeing with their opinions and I overheard them saying that they need to “keep and eye on me before it’s too late”. My own sister is calling me dumb for speaking out and saying I should just live out the circumstance the way she did until I’m old enough to move out. Idk what to do because I want parents that understand, I don’t want to just wait it out. I want to be able to say my own opinion. I want to see a day where there are men in the damn kitchen cleaning up. I want to be able to talk in family situations. I want my mom to be the same as before, I just fucking hate everything right now
As young as 9 years old, I had noticed sexism in not only my immediate family, but also in the way extended family/relatives treated/viewed women. Wether it be the traditional gender roles or “the way women should act” (soft spoken, appeasing), i always knew that this was wrong and that I was not going to grow up being that kind of women (although I don’t shame women who pursue that lifestyle). This is probably due to role models in my life like my older sister and cousins. Although, I noticed that these cousins and my sister always shared their ideas about how wrong certain things are in the family but they never stood up to them. At family getothers, they’d clean up while men lounged. They’d listen and not say a word when they were told they couldn’t go out for no legit reason. I hated it but I never spoke out either. My mom grew up with a Dad that didn’t care wether she was a girl or a boy, she was allowed to do whatever she wished. When my mom got married, she was told to quit her job and baby up, which she did. The mind state of the women on my dads family has always been opresssed and weak tbh. They turned my mom from a free feminist into the same mind state slowly. I’ve literally seen her change over time. My dad on the other hand says he has no difference in his mind for women and men, but his actions say otherwise. He judges my older female cousins for drinking whereas he’s the one pouring shots for my older male cousins. He lets my brother be a brat but freaks out if I say even the smallest controversial thing.
I’m not saying I grew up with extreme oppression because I didn’t, but the little things piled up and now I am going through what my parents thing is a “sensitive phase” where I literally can’t stand any of it. I have been speaking out for anything and everything I find wrong and my parents are just viewing me as some rebelling teenager. What they don’t realize is that I have always been like this outside of home. And so recently, My dad says some controversial things and I naturally respond to them. Instantly he’s shocked and saying “she snaps back so quickly” and how I’m so outspoken. Even my mom tells me to back down when she knows I’m not saying anything that she herself doesn’t believe in. My parents call me rude for simply not agreeing with their opinions and I overheard them saying that they need to “keep and eye on me before it’s too late”. My own sister is calling me dumb for speaking out and saying I should just live out the circumstance the way she did until I’m old enough to move out. Idk what to do because I want parents that understand, I don’t want to just wait it out. I want to be able to say my own opinion. I want to see a day where there are men in the damn kitchen cleaning up. I want to be able to talk in family situations. I want my mom to be the same as before, I just fucking hate everything right now