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Post by amy on Dec 3, 2017 3:47:19 GMT
I belong to a very religious Hindu family and they are now finding a guy for me for arrange marriage. I had a boyfriend before whom I am not with because that asshole cheated on me. I lost my virginity to him and now that I'm getting ready for an arrange marriage. I don't know how or when to tell my future husband that I am not a virgin. Should I tell him in the first meeting or later when the wedding is fixed. I'm just scared if I tell him he will break the proposal and my parents will know of me not being a virgin. I have no idea what to do. HELP!!
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Post by anonymous on Feb 6, 2018 9:34:35 GMT
Ask him how feels about virginity (both virgins and non virgins) Don’t bring it up all of a sudden but try to ease him into a conversation about that topic. See how he feels. If he says something about breaking the proposal if non virgin, you might have to tell him but wait it out for a while. It’s stupid to reject someone based on whether they’re a virgin or not. But eventually you’ll have to tell him. I suggest while you wait it out you plan out how you’ll tell him. If he says he’s ok with it, congratulations! Though again, your virginity is your choice. I still don’t get why families have to be so nosy about things like this (which are your choices too) :/ I’m still baffled. Anyway, I hope all goes well for you  |
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Post by Gotta stick together on Aug 14, 2018 6:34:35 GMT
This may be a bit extreme but hear me out,
If a boy breaks off marriage with you because you're not a virgin then trust me you dodged a bullet. He is definitely not worth your time if he thinks of you in a lesser manner simply because you're not a virgin. Ease him into the idea or the information but consider this as maybe your litmus test for the boy.
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Post by lmfndjdjskajajaj on Aug 14, 2018 16:56:01 GMT
this might sound bizarre but if your future husband decides that you are not worth marrying because you’re not a virgin, take it as a good thing. At least you know that he will conntinue to have unrealistic expectations before it’s too late. like what if he found out 7 years down the line and you have kids and you have a chance of losing your kids for it too
Hope this helps xoxo
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