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Post by Azka on Aug 23, 2017 4:41:22 GMT
I had a 7 year relationship with someone I honestly and truly believed I was going to get married to. He physically abused me. Started off with just pulling my hair when he was upset, and then escalated to him humiliating me by throwing food/drink on me and punching me or choking me an inch to losing my breath. If I doubted him in some way he would find a way to manipulate it and create a lie about me being into his roommate or his cousin or his brother and then use that to hit or hurt me. I've moved on since then but this haunts me. When I don't think about it I feel ok but when the thought arises I feel overwhelmed and start feeling a knot in my stomach. I head into the shower to cry for 10 minutes before pulling myself together for the day. I think about it at work and school or anytime I see someone that knows him, and doesn't know him the way I do. I spoke to my current s/o about it but I get the 'let's think about something else' response. I feel like I've never had a true outlet for my pain and I hate feeling like this after years.
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Post by J. on Aug 23, 2017 17:13:47 GMT
I've deal with an abusive relationship myself and from time to time I still think about it. I guess what makes me feel a lot better about the whole situation is that I am no longer in that space anymore. The only thing that brings me down is realizing that I allowed this spineless creature to treat me less than what I'm worth. I hope you realize how strong you are to have gotten out of that toxic relationship because I still have friends and family that have been dealing with it for what seems like all their lives and it truly pains me. Just be strong and think positive. It's all gonna be okay and he will get what he deserves in the long run. If it makes you feel any better, I just found out my ex is still jobless, and was just arrested for something stupid. It's sad but I'm glad karma got to him. Yours will get his too!
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Post by Smile on Aug 23, 2017 20:42:07 GMT
I haven't had a personal experience of abuse, but I've seen it happen very closely. I'd be very wrong if I say moving on from the person who caused this pain to you is an easy step. I can only imagine how difficult it is to hinder those memories, or to try forgetting them. Few experiences in life hit you so hard that you can never be able to manage forgetting them. But please do remember, that forgetting and healing are two different things. You can always heal, if you try a little. Sometimes the key just lies in talking to someone who'd listen to you or give you suggestions. Take help from close friends. Remember, healing also isn't an easy thing;but it's results are worth everything. You said you come down to tears every time you get reminded of him or see someone who knows him. Don't be afraid to cry, just let them flow. And take as much aw time you'd want, to get better. Also, start believing that it was just a bad experience and trust yourself for not putting you in a similar situation ever again. You're already a strong soul. All you have to do is, show your strength.
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Post by Bippy on Sept 14, 2018 4:03:24 GMT
I had a 7 year relationship with someone I honestly and truly believed I was going to get married to. He physically abused me. Started off with just pulling my hair when he was upset, and then escalated to him humiliating me by throwing food/drink on me and punching me or choking me an inch to losing my breath. If I doubted him in some way he would find a way to manipulate it and create a lie about me being into his roommate or his cousin or his brother and then use that to hit or hurt me. I've moved on since then but this haunts me. When I don't think about it I feel ok but when the thought arises I feel overwhelmed and start feeling a knot in my stomach. I head into the shower to cry for 10 minutes before pulling myself together for the day. I think about it at work and school or anytime I see someone that knows him, and doesn't know him the way I do. I spoke to my current s/o about it but I get the 'let's think about something else' response. I feel like I've never had a true outlet for my pain and I hate feeling like this after years. Your current s/o is part of the problem. How can someone be allowed to be so close to you without even trying to understand you. I hope your current s/o is not abusive as well. Even if hes not he doesnt seem like he cares enough about you. Where are the actual men/people who care about you sis? I think others in your life like family and friends will give you the love and support you need to heal. Also i dont know the law where you live but your ex shouldve been in jail by now or on probation with a restraining order in place. i hope its not too late to do that. Or else he might not stop and another woman will suffer |
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