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Post by Anonynours on Aug 23, 2017 1:44:36 GMT
I smoke weed occasionally and have a few sex toys (I don't think there's anything wrong with either one whatsoever). Just to paint a picture, I'm in the shower which is connected to my room and I like to leave the bathroom door open but lock my main door so no one can come in. So, my brother in law somehow unlocks the door and comes in my room and he can see me in the shower but I didn't realize that someone is in the room (since I was facing the wall in the shower and the shower and the exhaust fan). He starts snooping through my room and finds one of my toys and my vaporizer and as I'm getting out the shower, he's just standing there like WTF! so I tell him to get out and he doesn't the first few times but he did eventually. Then he comes back and starts talking about how it's bad and all that and then he tells me to find a boyfriend and to do it with him (he was focused more on the toy part) and starts asking me how the toy works and just start being inappropriate and starts telling me how he can help and just being plain nasty at this time BUTTTT I recorded everything and he starts telling me how this can just stay between us and how he won't tell me sister about him finding the toy or anything even though I told him I wasn't embarrassed or afraid he can tell wwonderful human beingver but he just very inappropriate. So the question is should I tell my sister or not? They have a little baby together and he's the only person she's ever been in love with and she's extremely sensitive. I don't if I should let it go.
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Post by J. on Aug 23, 2017 16:59:45 GMT
First off, I would like to start off by saying I have a couple toys myself. I've always been shy about it and no one else knows that I have them so reading that you have them and aren't ashamed of them makes me feel 1000x's better. You are right, we don't need to be ashamed of them and there is absolutely nothing wrong with having them.
About your brother in law, that's just upmost inappropriate for him to even be in your room looking around your things yet alone even saying things to you like that. I know it's gonna hurt your sister but she deserves to know what he said. If it were me in her place and my husband said anything inappropriate to my sister I would want her to tell me. I would never want my sister to feel uncomfortable around my husband or have him say something to her and she feels like she can't tell me.
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Post by haseena on Aug 24, 2017 17:48:42 GMT
Ahh it's a difficult one.
But sometimes what she doesn't know can't hurt her is the best route.
Since she has a child as well she won't really want to ruin the relationship because of something he said.
For now keep the recording and tell him to know his boundaries.
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Post by Anonymous on Aug 25, 2017 0:20:19 GMT
He's an idiot and got in an argument with me over texts because I told him he wasn't man enough or a real man, something along those lines (I knew it would hurt his ego). And I brought up everything and he confessed to it saying there's nothing wrong with what he said because he could've forced himself on me but he didn't. I saved all these texts, took screenshots, emailed it to myself and a best friend and same with the recording. I told him I recorded on a device (he bought it). Now he can snoop through my room looking for a device that doesn't exist. I decided against telling my sister just this one time because it'll break her.
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Post by anon on Aug 27, 2017 21:26:23 GMT
girl you need to tell your sister. No matter how sensitive she is, she would want to know. She deserves to know, especially if she has a child. Secondly if he is saying stuff like i could've forced myself on you, this is about safety. You need to tell her. If I was your sister, no matter how in love with my husband i may be, i would want you to feel comfortable and safe. I would want to know
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Post by Anonymous on Aug 27, 2017 23:40:19 GMT
So I told my sister and showed her all the messages and recording while he was there too. And threaten to ruin my life how he's gonna ruin me and to watch out and how all of that was casual talk and how he actually didn't do anything and even though he committed how he forced himself on me two years. My sister basically agreed and said it's just casual and he didn't actually do anything and he then told me to get out of his house. So much for thinking that my sister would see the truth.
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Post by shanoodidi on Aug 19, 2018 9:05:13 GMT
So I told my sister and showed her all the messages and recording while he was there too. And threaten to ruin my life how he's gonna ruin me and to watch out and how all of that was casual talk and how he actually didn't do anything and even though he committed how he forced himself on me two years. My sister basically agreed and said it's just casual and he didn't actually do anything and he then told me to get out of his house. So much for thinking that my sister would see the truth. O.M.G!!!! No hard feeling girl but sympathies to your sister for being so blind (head & eyes)! She might take some time to understand the situation maybe, and actually picture her ever-so-righteous husband being the bad guy, so hopefully she realises the truth in due time! Kudos to you for doing the right thing! Hope your safe & well! |
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